This reminds me of a story from my last workplace. All adult males from 50ish to 70ish tears of age. 2 guys, call them Butch and Billy, despised each other. The only thing they hated, more than each other, was me. See, they considered me a brownnoser because I got along very well with the owner of the 25-employee company, ''Kenny.'' At one point, I guess it kind of bothered me that B&B hated me. Then one early morning, unbeknownst to B&B, I overheard them bad mouthing me over their CB radios. They were calling me some pretty nasty things that I won't elucidate here. After pondering all that for a few minutes, a switch flipped in my head and I had a little chuckle to myself. As luck would have it, or by divine intervention(?), at the end of that long day B,B and myself all happened to return to the shop around the same time. As I was walking towards the shop exit, I took a slightly circuitous route which took me past where Butch and Billy were having a chat. As I passed by, without breaking stride, I interrupted them and cheerfully said something to the effect of, ''Hi guys, you know it really warms my heart, after all these years, to see you getting along so well!'' As they stood there speechless (which was a rarity for either of those big mouths) I zipped thru the exit door and as it shut behind me laughed quietly to myself! Rob D, thanks for this article and for reminding me of that classic moment.
Excellent sarafino bueti! You made the choice to not only ignore them, but to kind of turn it back around on them as well. I disagree with people who say that words "hurt them". I do understand not being able to defend ourselves when others are cruel and slander us behind our backs and the repercussions can be devastating. But, even then, it is our *choice* to let what someone says ruin our life. Why do we even want anything to do with someone who obviously doesn't like us for whatever reason and talks smack about us? My Grandmother on my Dad's side of the family was one of the strongest people I've ever known and she was brilliant when it came to people who "didn't like her" or talked bad about her. She held her head high and said (not to those who were taking out their own lives on her), "I live a good life and I don't intentionally hurt anyone, I could care less what they think." We only have ourselves to blame if we allow what people say about us to "hurt" us. I believe that people who do constantly worry about what other say have some mental issues and aren't truly comfortable with who they are. And, to add to that, maybe there's some truth in what those people are saying because if it bothers us that much and gets under our skin that much then those who are dishing out the "abuse" must have struck a nerve. Maybe sometimes what people say about us can be an opportunity for us to reflect on ourselves a bit as well and "check ourselves" to make sure that *we* aren't the reason for that abuse. Thanks for the great comment. :)
Good points Rob D. Your Grandmother had the right attitude, and kept it simple. I also agree that, when we are ''criticized'', it's not a bad idea to objectively check in on ourselves. That can be tricky, too, if we make it too complicated. Again...keep it simple. Thanks for the great reply.
And what's really difficult is when people say things that DO hurt us... When what they say about us causes serious problems, such as not being able to get a job, or not being able to be trusted to do what most people do without any trouble.
I can't visit my elderly parents now, because my brothers want me to submit to humiliations and abuse before I am "allowed." They say I can't be trusted. They say I am violent and abusive to strangers and to family members. I am treated as a pariah by people who don't know me, and by people who do.
This seems to all come back to Covid. I am not Mike Yeadon, but I understand how he felt.
So... mostly the sticks and stones are the problem, but ... not always.
My one hope is that if I can trust in the Creator to set things right, and not be filled with rage and hatred, then maybe good things can happen. It's damn hard, but I do succeed at times, in and out of it. It's often hard to sleep.
I'm not saying this to get sympathy. I'm saying people can be very cruel, and without any physical attack, they can hurt others very deeply. It seems to be a kind of trend these days...
Yeah... I had to stop listening to shows that spend hours going into bullshit that I know is just a trick.
There's so much half bullshit out there in alt media and it helps to realize that they can be idiots as much as the normies.
This reminds me of a story from my last workplace. All adult males from 50ish to 70ish tears of age. 2 guys, call them Butch and Billy, despised each other. The only thing they hated, more than each other, was me. See, they considered me a brownnoser because I got along very well with the owner of the 25-employee company, ''Kenny.'' At one point, I guess it kind of bothered me that B&B hated me. Then one early morning, unbeknownst to B&B, I overheard them bad mouthing me over their CB radios. They were calling me some pretty nasty things that I won't elucidate here. After pondering all that for a few minutes, a switch flipped in my head and I had a little chuckle to myself. As luck would have it, or by divine intervention(?), at the end of that long day B,B and myself all happened to return to the shop around the same time. As I was walking towards the shop exit, I took a slightly circuitous route which took me past where Butch and Billy were having a chat. As I passed by, without breaking stride, I interrupted them and cheerfully said something to the effect of, ''Hi guys, you know it really warms my heart, after all these years, to see you getting along so well!'' As they stood there speechless (which was a rarity for either of those big mouths) I zipped thru the exit door and as it shut behind me laughed quietly to myself! Rob D, thanks for this article and for reminding me of that classic moment.
Excellent sarafino bueti! You made the choice to not only ignore them, but to kind of turn it back around on them as well. I disagree with people who say that words "hurt them". I do understand not being able to defend ourselves when others are cruel and slander us behind our backs and the repercussions can be devastating. But, even then, it is our *choice* to let what someone says ruin our life. Why do we even want anything to do with someone who obviously doesn't like us for whatever reason and talks smack about us? My Grandmother on my Dad's side of the family was one of the strongest people I've ever known and she was brilliant when it came to people who "didn't like her" or talked bad about her. She held her head high and said (not to those who were taking out their own lives on her), "I live a good life and I don't intentionally hurt anyone, I could care less what they think." We only have ourselves to blame if we allow what people say about us to "hurt" us. I believe that people who do constantly worry about what other say have some mental issues and aren't truly comfortable with who they are. And, to add to that, maybe there's some truth in what those people are saying because if it bothers us that much and gets under our skin that much then those who are dishing out the "abuse" must have struck a nerve. Maybe sometimes what people say about us can be an opportunity for us to reflect on ourselves a bit as well and "check ourselves" to make sure that *we* aren't the reason for that abuse. Thanks for the great comment. :)
Good points Rob D. Your Grandmother had the right attitude, and kept it simple. I also agree that, when we are ''criticized'', it's not a bad idea to objectively check in on ourselves. That can be tricky, too, if we make it too complicated. Again...keep it simple. Thanks for the great reply.
Absolutely! Keeping it simple is the key for sure. If we get bogged down in self-observation that can be a whole other can of worms! Thanks again! :)
Correction: ''years'' of age. Although, ''tears'' might fit, lol.
Haha
Yes, indeed.
And what's really difficult is when people say things that DO hurt us... When what they say about us causes serious problems, such as not being able to get a job, or not being able to be trusted to do what most people do without any trouble.
I can't visit my elderly parents now, because my brothers want me to submit to humiliations and abuse before I am "allowed." They say I can't be trusted. They say I am violent and abusive to strangers and to family members. I am treated as a pariah by people who don't know me, and by people who do.
This seems to all come back to Covid. I am not Mike Yeadon, but I understand how he felt.
So... mostly the sticks and stones are the problem, but ... not always.
My one hope is that if I can trust in the Creator to set things right, and not be filled with rage and hatred, then maybe good things can happen. It's damn hard, but I do succeed at times, in and out of it. It's often hard to sleep.
I'm not saying this to get sympathy. I'm saying people can be very cruel, and without any physical attack, they can hurt others very deeply. It seems to be a kind of trend these days...